This morning, the instructor of my rec class started talking about the inspiration of the word “yet.” Rather than simply saying “I can’t do this,” she suggested we add “yet.” That it was always achievable, and “yet” made you focus on a future where you had succeeded.

This afternoon, as I return from a single-person sized grocery trip and contemplate a week of dinners for one, I wonder about “yet.” I think if you ask my friends, they would tell you that I haven’t met someone yet. If you ask me, I would just shake my head and ask “When?”

Yet doesn’t offer much hope for me right now, yet doesn’t seem terribly promising. I think I’ve lost faith, after so many years of non-relationships, bad dating, and all of these “not yets.” I don’t have a date for a wedding, yet. I don’t have someone to make me breakfast, yet. These not yets include weekend trips, trips to farmer’s markets and dinner parties as much as they include shared apartments, weddings, and children, someday.

The dictionary says that the nearest antonym to yet is “never.” I don’t think I’m at “never”, yet, but I’m certainly getting closer. “When?” might be a good question to ask the world at this point.


  • By Fae, June 4, 2014 @ 5:55 pm

    This is beautiful and sad. But “When?” doesn’t have to be lonely response to “Yet”. It can also be hopeful and empowering. Not “if”, but “when”.

  • By Eleni, July 1, 2014 @ 2:06 pm

    Hi Hez,
    I know it’s been forever, but seeing that it was Canada Day happened to make me think of you. Anyway, I hope all’s well. Are you still working at the museum? I’m still working on the PhD. 5 years and counting…hopefully only one more. Anyway, happy Canada Day!

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