Goodbyes

When it comes to goodbye, I think I like the French “au revoir” better. In direct translation, it means “until I see you again.” I love the idea that the French have a word for seeing someone again. Reseeing. I wish we had it in English. Reunion doesn’t quite cut it.

I get tired of saying goodbyes. Why is that you have to say goodbye to one set of people in order to be back with another? Why is it that you have to leave one home to return to another? Why must there always be that trade off - losing something to gain something else?

I think it’s not about the places you go, but the people you meet.

This year has undeniably changed me for the better. But it wasn’t the place so much as the people. Places are only the backdrop for experiences, and experiences are largely dependent on the characters.

I know that distance is a relative thing, and I know that friendship can survive distance. But it’s hard when things change. When you go from seeing someone nearly everyday to maybe once a year. It was hard when I came here, and now it will be hard when I return to Canada. The more places I go, the more homes I have… the more people I have to leave behind.

So I’ll settle with an au revoir to Newcastle and my Newcastle cast of characters, because goodbye is too final and too sad.

4 Comments

  • By Twin, August 26, 2010 @ 12:39 am

    Twin my love, you are by far one of the most amazing people that I know!!

  • By Faebala, August 26, 2010 @ 12:39 am

    Love this. And it’s so true, trading one good thing to gain another. I guess that’s what makes us appreciate them more, but I’d still rather have it all…

  • By Lea, August 26, 2010 @ 2:18 pm

    I taught myself to think of missing people as a form of wealth, and I remind myself of that, and it helps me see how rich my life is.

  • By Eleni, August 31, 2010 @ 1:29 am

    Here I go again, with the Into the Woods quotes popping into my mind:
    “Is it always ‘or’, is it never ‘and’?”

    “And you think of all of the things you’ve seen
    And you wish that you could live in between
    And you’re back again only different than before…”

    It is so hard leaving places you’ve lived. I wish I could just pack up all of my friends from high school, college, and after and bring them all with me wherever I go. I hope you manage to stay close with your friends far away. I know it’s something that I’ve never really done well.

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