There are some things that you simply cannot imagine before you’ve experienced them yourself. Your first kiss. The death of a loved one. Sex. Skydiving.


Lucky by Alice Sebold (the other of The Lovely Bones) is her memoir of being raped in her first year of university. It talks about the incident itself and the legal proceedings afterwards, but most importantly it talks about the emotional aftermath of rape.


Alice is so badly beaten that when it first happens, no one can ignore it. Her bruises and cuts are a constant reminder. But when she heals, when she starts to look like she used to, it’s easy for everyone to think that it’s over.

The truth is that it took her over a decade to recover from her rape. And this story shows the effect it had not only on her, but on everyone in her life. Because things don’t just go back to normal when the skin heals. Because some things are irrevocable. She continuously refers to it as her old life and her new one, because there is such a huge divide between the two.

This book is a remarkable insight into the life of a “survivor” of rape. It’s horrible and beautiful at the same time. It’s almost painful to read sometimes because it’s so real, so raw.

“It was an early nuance of a realization that would take years to face. I share my life not with the girls and boys I grew up with, or the students I went to Syracuse with, or even the friends and people I’ve known since. I share my life with my rapist. He is the husband to my fate.”

“No one can pull anyone back from anywhere. You save yourself or you remain unsaved.”

It was a moving book, a true insight into the issue of rape, something that you really can’t imagine until you’ve been through it. And I hope that this is as familiar as I ever get with rape.


  • By Jes, June 30, 2009 @ 8:24 am

    Sounds like it would be a tough read, but I love her. Will need to check it out.

  • By Laura, June 30, 2009 @ 10:56 am

    The best book she has ever written. It will destroy you, but makes you a better person. A person who can understand the awfulness of our world, but also, knowing how amazing we are as women, to be able to overcome that.

  • By Lisa, June 30, 2009 @ 12:23 pm

    I read “The Lovely Bones” and loved it. She’s a great author. I will definitely have to read this, even though the topic is a painful one.

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